You probably don't want to talk to me, but I'm here.
That's S, my first boyfriend. It was my first year of high school and I had just turned fourteen. That was the year I traded my glasses for contact lenses. I started a high school for smart, artsy outsiders. I bought my first pair of army boots. I fell in love with a nineteen-year old boy who was listlessly attending City College while his father traveled through Italy. He was lovely. I've got the pictures to prove it. S had pitch black eyes and immaculate cheekbones. You could watch the muscles move under his skin, biceps and triceps, perfectly outlined abs. I think I would have fallen in love with the first person who told me I was pretty. It could have been some other kid my age, confused and covered in zits. We could have flailed our way through kissing and groping, notes on blue-lined paper, and high school gossip. Instead it was S. At nineteen, he was practically an adult. Even if in hindsight he seems like a hyperactive, overgrown child, when I was fourteen years old, S seemed like a God.
There's nothing quite like your first love. I would ditch my friends and run to his house after school. We'd make pasta or order Chinese food and watch cartoons (Batman, mostly) under blankets in his living room. We roughhoused constantly. That's what people do when they don't really know how to touch each other. At the slightest provocation, we'd be rolling around on the floor, trying to pin wrists and shoulders. Essentially, we behaved like children, except for that somewhere along the line I misplaced my virginity. I imagine it's still somewhere behind S's couch.
In retrospect I think it should have fallen apart sooner. I don't know how long relationships are supposed to last when you're in high school, but in comparison to my peers, my relationship with S was epic. Two years. It took two years for S to go from some mysterious stranger who made all of my girl friends sigh with envy to some annoying puppy dog that wouldn't stop following me around. So it fell apart. I cheated on him. We fought. He hit me. It didn't even leave a bruise, but it was the excuse that I needed, so I left him. So he slept with my best friend.
I remember the night I broke up with S, I was hysterical. I couldn't stop crying. I was sitting on the floor, making these gasping sobbing sounds when my mother came home. She went directly to the liquor cabinet, opened a bottle of cognac, and started feeding me shots.
S moved to Washington not too long after that. I liked to think we were both better off that way. I don't have misty-eyed memories of my first relationship. When I thought about him at all, it was as something vaguely embarrassing that I'd outgrown. It was years before I understood that he'd ruined me. I opened the door one afternoon and was introduced to --what shall I call him? It doesn't matter, does it?-- the most heart-breakingly beautiful man I'd ever seen. Nevermind his eyes (blue) or his hair (blond) or his smile (goofy), that man was standing there with S's cheekbones. And his chest. And his arms. I was sure that my knees were going to buckle under me.
LOCAL TEENAGER VANISHES. MYSTERIOUS PUDDLE FOUND ON HER FRONT DOOR.
I know that there are men who read this. Well, listen up. Listen closely. Don't ever let a woman tell you that physical appearances don't matter. I've dated all kinds of men. I've been in plenty of relationships, but the one thing that will invariably swoon me is a man who looks like my very first boyfriend.
Damn.